IT’'S ‘NOT’ OKAY

Saying "it's okay" when it's not okay is a common social phenomenon, often rooted in our desire to maintain harmony and avoid confrontation. There are several reasons for this behavior. Firstly, some may say "it's okay" as a way to protect the feelings of others. They don't want to hurt someone's emotions or create tension, so they offer reassurance even when they may not genuinely feel that everything is fine. This can be especially true in relationships, where individuals prioritize maintaining a positive atmosphere. For me personally, that’s how I was for the majority of my life and relationships. I often as a people pleaser/fixer would prioritize someone else’s feelings over my own.

In many scenarios, the "it's okay" response serves as a temporary solution to keep the peace. However, it's essential to get a balance between maintaining harmony and authentic communication. Over time, suppressing genuine emotions can lead to more significant issues, like resentment or misunderstandings. Encouraging open and honest dialogue is crucial for fostering healthy relationships. Nobody said it was easy. It is an ongoing struggle I find myself in, just as many others. Here are some things you can say instead:

LOVE + LIGHT,
KELLY ANN